The holiday season is a time to connect and celebrate with loved ones. For many seniors, it’s also an opportunity to have important conversations with family about the support they may need. Whether it’s assistance with daily tasks, managing health concerns, or simply spending more time together, these conversations can help you feel more connected and supported.
Asking for support can feel difficult, especially when you’ve always valued your independence. However, being open about your needs can actually strengthen relationships.
When we share our needs, it not only benefits us, but also allows others an opportunity to show they care. Often, loved ones want to help — they just may not know how unless we are honest about what we need.
Here are four tips for conversations with loved ones this holiday season:
1. It’s OK to ask for help if needed
Needing help with tasks such as mobility, managing health, or staying socially connected is natural. Everyone needs assistance at different points in life, and asking for it can help you stay healthier and have a better quality of life. Asking for support is a sign of self-awareness and strength; it’s not a loss of independence.
Example: “I’ve been having trouble keeping track of my medications and appointments. Could you help me set up a system?”
Recognizing that asking for help is normal can ease feelings of embarrassment or hesitation.
2. It’s OK to ask for more time together
The holidays can bring joy, but they can also highlight feelings of isolation. If you’re feeling lonely, don’t hesitate to ask for more time with your loved ones. Sharing your feelings can lead to more meaningful connections and help combat loneliness.
Example: “I’ve been feeling a bit isolated lately and would really enjoy more time together. Could we plan something for next week?”
3. Be clear and honest about your needs
It’s important to express exactly what you need, whether it’s help with daily tasks or emotional support. By being open, you help your loved ones understand how they can assist you.
Example: “I’ve been having trouble getting to the grocery store. Could you help with that?”
4. Accept support if you need it, even if you didn’t ask
Sometimes, your loved ones may offer help before you ask for it. It’s important to recognize that their offer comes from a place of care, and accepting it doesn’t diminish your independence. In fact, their help may also be their way of feeling useful or showing they care. If the offer doesn’t align with what you need, be honest about what would be most helpful.
Example: “Thank you for offering to help with that. What would help me most right now is [specific request].”
How vulnerability builds stronger connections
When you share your needs, you invite others to offer care, which strengthens relationships. Vulnerability creates a sense of shared responsibility, helping to deepen bonds. Accepting support doesn’t diminish your independence — it fosters connection and ensures you’re supported by the people who matter most.
A holiday season of connection
The holidays are a time to reflect on the year, enjoy each other’s company, and strengthen connections. By having open, honest conversations about your needs, you can create a more meaningful holiday season where everyone feels appreciated and supported. Starting these conversations may feel uncomfortable at first, but they help make your time with family and friends more rewarding — and ensure your needs are met in a practical way.
At Amica Senior Lifestyles, our Community Relations Directors are experts at navigating the supports available to help seniors live their best lives. Our 32 beautifully designed residences offer engaging life-enrichment activities, discerning care, and deliciously fresh culinary options, which meet the unique dietary needs of seniors.